Course Outline:

Building Peaceful, Aligned Relationships Without Subconscious Sabotage

Module 1: Relationship Foundations — Clarity Before Change

Objective:
Establish a clear foundation for a healthy, committed relationship by understanding how communication, structure, and intention reduce conflict and subconscious sabotage.

Topics Covered:

• Why clarity and structure matter more than good intentions

• The role of effective communication in relational safety

• Overview of the Fair Fighting Agreement and the Relationship Alignment tools

• Setting intentions for the course and identifying personal relationship goals

Module 2: Respectful Communication & Emotional Safety

Objective:
Learn and practice communication skills that create safety, reduce defensiveness, and support mutual understanding.

Topics Covered:

• Active listening without interruption or correction

• Using “I” statements to express feelings without blame

• Understanding tone, timing, and emotional regulation

• Guided practice to strengthen empathy and understanding

Module 3: Staying Present & Addressing the Past Responsibly

Objective:
Develop the ability to stay focused on current issues while creating appropriate space to process unresolved past experiences.

Topics Covered:

• Defining and staying with one issue at a time

• How and when to process past conflicts constructively

• Preventing old issues from hijacking present conversations

• Creating emotional safety during difficult discussions

Module 4: Regulation, Timeouts & Resolution

Objective:
Learn practical strategies for de-escalating conflict, regulating emotional responses, and working toward resolution without damage to the relationship.

Topics Covered:

• Establishing and respecting a timeout protocol

• Understanding the purpose of pauses and regulation

• Collaborative problem-solving approaches

• Taking responsibility for thoughts, feelings, and behaviors during conflict

Module 5: Shared Direction & Relationship Agreements

Objective:
Create shared clarity around goals, expectations, and long-term direction to reduce assumptions and recurring conflict.

Topics Covered:

• Defining the purpose and direction of the committed relationship

• Setting shared goals across key life areas (family, career, health, finances, faith/values, fulfillment, legacy, and social connections)

• Identifying current challenges and desired outcomes

• Using structure to prevent subconscious sabotage

Module 6: Review, Adaptation & Long-Term Stability

Objective:
Establish sustainable practices for reviewing, revising, and strengthening relationship agreements as life and circumstances evolve.

Topics Covered:

• Creating regular relationship check-ins

• Revisiting goals and agreements without blame

• Adapting to change while maintaining alignment

• Supporting long-term growth and relational resilience

Conclusion: Carrying This Forward

Objective:
Integrate the tools, agreements, and shared insights from the course into daily life with intention and clarity.

Topics Covered:

• Reflecting on growth, awareness, and responsibility

• Reinforcing the use of structure to support peace

• Applying the tools during future transitions and challenges

• Committing to ongoing clarity, communication, and shared direction