Course Outline:

Building Peaceful, Aligned Relationships Without Subconscious Sabotage

Module 1: Relationship Foundations — Clarity Before Change

Objective:
Establish a clear foundation for a healthy, committed relationship by understanding how communication, structure, and intention reduce conflict and subconscious sabotage.

Topics Covered:

• Why clarity and structure matter more than good intentions

• The role of effective communication in relational safety

• Overview of the Fair Fighting Agreement and the Relationship Alignment tools

• Setting intentions for the course and identifying personal relationship goals

Module 2: Respectful Communication & Emotional Safety

Objective:
Learn and practice communication skills that create safety, reduce defensiveness, and support mutual understanding.

Topics Covered:

• Active listening without interruption or correction

• Using “I” statements to express feelings without blame

• Understanding tone, timing, and emotional regulation

• Guided practice to strengthen empathy and understanding

Module 3: Staying Present & Addressing the Past Responsibly

Objective:
Develop the ability to stay focused on current issues while creating appropriate space to process unresolved past experiences.

Topics Covered:

• Defining and staying with one issue at a time

• How and when to process past conflicts constructively

• Preventing old issues from hijacking present conversations

• Creating emotional safety during difficult discussions

Module 4: Regulation, Timeouts & Resolution

Objective:
Learn practical strategies for de-escalating conflict, regulating emotional responses, and working toward resolution without damage to the relationship.

Topics Covered:

• Establishing and respecting a timeout protocol

• Understanding the purpose of pauses and regulation

• Collaborative problem-solving approaches

• Taking responsibility for thoughts, feelings, and behaviors during conflict

Module 5: Shared Direction & Relationship Agreements

Objective:
Create shared clarity around goals, expectations, and long-term direction to reduce assumptions and recurring conflict.

Topics Covered:

• Defining the purpose and direction of the committed relationship

• Setting shared goals across key life areas (family, career, health, finances, faith/values, fulfillment, legacy, and social connections)

• Identifying current challenges and desired outcomes

• Using structure to prevent subconscious sabotage

Module 6: Review, Adaptation & Long-Term Stability

Objective:
Establish sustainable practices for reviewing, revising, and strengthening relationship agreements as life and circumstances evolve.

Topics Covered:

• Creating regular relationship check-ins

• Revisiting goals and agreements without blame

• Adapting to change while maintaining alignment

• Supporting long-term growth and relational resilience

Conclusion: Carrying This Forward

Objective:
Integrate the tools, agreements, and shared insights from the course into daily life with intention and clarity.

Topics Covered:

• Reflecting on growth, awareness, and responsibility

• Reinforcing the use of structure to support peace

• Applying the tools during future transitions and challenges

• Committing to ongoing clarity, communication, and shared direction

A Quick Orientation to The Work

You’ll notice that some of the tools in this course are structured and may sound a bit clinical at times — that’s intentional. Peaceful, lasting relationships don’t rely on emotion alone; they’re supported by clarity, shared language, and agreements made before stress takes over. You don’t need to do everything at once. Start where it feels supportive, move at your own pace, and use structure as a way to protect connection — not replace it.