Forgiveness Journey TO Freedom Class Content

Success Path of the Forgiveness Process:

  1. Access sources of strength for this journey 
    1. People to support you and hold you accountable to work on your goals
    2. Increase skills sets
      1. Mind-Based Mood Management and calming skills
      2. Assertiveness, Anger Management, etc.
  2. Reflect on your situation
    1. Move out of denial, enabling, codependency, and/or enmeshment 
    2. Consider how this has affected you in all areas of your life both in the past and the present
  3. Acknowledge the hurt and pain
    1. Feeling the sad and the mad
    2. Talk about the sad and mad
    3. Accept that you can’t change the past
  4. Make the Forgiveness Decision 
    1. I chose not to forgive (and own this state), or
    2. I chose to forgive everything, or
    3. I chose to forgive certain parts
  5. Then make the decision to start your journey on the Forgiveness Process
    1. Work out your forgiveness, starting from your core inside; begin spreading it out to all your insides, then outsides, then to others, then to all there is (effecting the spiritual climate.) 
    2. Notice that forgiveness isn’t this big watershed moment at the end of the process; we are only in the middle now.  This story ark isn’t like an action film where all the big explosions and climax a few minutes before the end credits.  You’ll have a soft ending where you barely notice it if it ever ends.  
  6. Understand the “whys?” (get answers to your questions and develop an empathic understanding for yourself and the person that hurt you)
  7. Find meaning in your suffering that leads to your development and growth
  8. Releasing others and self
    1. The hurter
    2. Yourself
      1. For allowing them to hurt you
      2. For withholding forgiveness and the damage done
  9. Give up the shame and guilt
    1. Victims have shame and guilt too
    2. Release the abuser from their shame and guilt
  10. Find fulfillment in who you are now that you have forgiven
    1. Practice Gratitude
    2. Accept that you currently own this Forgiveness Quality
  11. Decide where you want to go from here
    1. Repair the relationships
    2. Have Healthy Closure of the connection 



2 Lessons